Our Story … In March 2002, in a moment of despair and hopelessness, our son Gary chose to end his own life. A part of us died with him that day. The heartache that followed became our constant companion along with the burning question, WHY?! We have found that our life has been divided by this tragedy; it has become a marker of life before and life after. We chose to allow our pain to motivate us to reach outside of ourselves, to find purpose and healing through helping others.
Our Journey to establishing lil’ Gary’s Legacy was long; filled with excitement and despair, hope and fear, a constant roller coaster of emotions. The thought that our life ministry would be focused on our greatest loss brought us to our knees. God give us your strength. Countless times when we felt it was just too difficult, too much for God to ask of us – faith would rise in our hearts bringing us the strength to keep putting one foot in front of the other and pursue the dream. The dream that lil’ Gary’s life would matter, would make a difference for eternity; that because he lived and died people would be blessed, encouraged and comforted. Our purpose became clear, good works in loving memory of our precious son.
In February 2012, as we were preparing to launch our website and facebook page to commemorate the ten year anniversary of Gary’s death, our 29 year old daughter Tiffany died suddenly of an accidental overdose. Tiffany suffered with severe depression and it was difficult for her to cope with her brother’s death. Our hearts ache with sadness over the great loss of our sweet daughter, however we know she is at peace with God and suffers no more pain.
We are comforted by Tiffany's prayer journal entry shortly before she died: "Dear Lord Jesus, I love you Lord Jesus. Please forgive me of all my many sins. You say in your Holy Word, 'If I confess with my mouth you will be faithful and just to forgive me, (Tiffany), of all unrighteousness.' "
Tiffany helped with selecting songs for the facebook page and was excited about reaching out in her brother's memory. She was tenderhearted always wanting to help others in their life struggles. In honor of this we have moved forward with the website and facebook page. It is truly what we believe God has called us to do. Our sweet Tiffany is remembered with a slideshow tribute, a written memorial and picture on the memorial wall.
“For we are God’s workmanship created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Ephesians 2:10
"May the favor of the Lord our God rest upon us; establish the work of our hands for us—yes, establish the work of our hands.” Psalm 90:17
God is good and we trust Him with our lives. Our children are gifts that live on through the telling of our story. Although the heartbreak of losing them is great, woven into the fabric of our story is Hope... Hope in a God who never leaves or forsakes us, even when the worst happens; Hope in a Savior who gives us strength for each new day; Hope that transcends circumstance. Our Hope is in God alone. He truly is the anchor of our soul.
“We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure…” Hebrews 6:19
Our Story for His Glory,
Gary and Kathryn Ross
Founded April 2002 by Gary and Kathryn Ross
♥ Heart Felt Thank You ♥
To our Daughter in Love, Trisha Ross for her support and dedication to the design and implementation of this website. Through you God sent us inspiration and belief that our story could be an instrument of hope and healing. You are a special blessing from the Lord in our lives.
To our brother, Jeff Ross for his love and support of our desire to share our story. Your expertise in web mastery and hours of hard work constructing this site have meant more to us than we can even express in words. May God richly bless you for all you have given.
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